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Author: Scarlett De Bease

How to not look frumpy

Today I want to talk about how wearing clothes that are too tight and in the wrong colors can make you look bigger. frumpy, and miserable.

That’s exactly how Jamie Lee Curtis was styled in her Oscar winning performance in Everything Everywhere All At Once.

She was intentionally styled to look frumpy, unhappy, and shapeless in the movie simply by wearing clothes that did not fit or properly suit her.

Take a look below, at how Jamie Lee Curtis looks in her outfit from Everywhere All At Once.

The top color is awful on her as is the fit, size, and style of her clothes. Slumping also contributes to the tummy sticking out more than usual, as does wearing pants below the waistline.
Even her eyeglasses are not flattering.
All these ‘mistakes’ were deliberately made.

Note: Check out this post about turtlenecks and why they are not flattering for many.

How to not look frumpy

Now, look at how her very same body looks in clothes that properly fit and flatter her.

How to not look frumpy

Wow, right?

In real life wearing clothes that are in the wrong style, shape, or color for you can have the same negative effect that makes women of all ages, shapes, and sizes look bigger and frumpier than they are.

It also destroys self-confidence and ruins first impressions. Especially the most important first impression…yours… when you look in the mirror to check out what you’ve put on.

Here’s how to not look frumpy…

Wearing clothes that are too tight can create unflattering bulges and emphasize areas that you may not want to draw attention to. It will also make you look older and unhealthy. 😬

Instead, choose clothes that fit well, flatter your body type, and unique features, without being too snug.

Also wearing the wrong colors can make your skin look dull and washed out, which will make you look older, sicker, and more tired than you actually are. We are all a bit tired, so why bring more attention to it?

The bottom line is wearing clothes that are too tight, or too big, and in the wrong colors will make any woman look bigger and frumpier than she actually is, regardless of her body shape.

By choosing clothes that fit well and flatter your skin tone, you can create a polished and put-together look that accentuates your best features and makes you look and feel confident and beautiful.

As always, if you need any help finding the perfect fit and colors for your body type, don’t hesitate to reach out to me and get you started on finally learning how to dress the body and life you have now!

You deserve to always look and feel put-together and ready for anything on your calendar, no matter your age shape, or size.

Tired of never knowing what to wear?

Do you ever:

1. Tug at your clothes to get them in place as the fit is not right?

2. Worried about how much more you can eat that day before a button, seam or zipper might pop?

3. Feeling self-conscious about your appearance?

4. Worry that your clothes are out of style or dated-looking making you feel frumpy?

5. Concerned that your clothes make you look older than you are or feel?

If you answered yes to even just one of these very common situations, you need a seat at my upcoming virtual What To Wear workshop.

It’s happening on March 31, 2023, at 12 noon ET.
You’ll get a recording even if you can’t attend live,
but only if you reserve your seat HERE.

Tired of never knowing what to wear?

It’s time for you to love the clothes you wear.

What To Wear Workshop

Learn what to wear.

Learn what to wear

Do you know why this dress is wrong for many women and right for others? Want to know if it’s right or wrong for you?

Learn what to wear plus get many more styling & shopping tips, when you grab your virtual seat at my What To Wear Workshop on March 31, 2023.

No worries if you can’t attend, because a recording will be sent following the workshop. Check out all the details here.

The Perfect Pant Style For You

Bet you’ve been wondering…

Should I wear wide-legged pants?

Skinny-legged?

Flare?

Cargo?

Pleated?

Joggers?

What style is in?

The answer is…I have great news for you because the pant style that is perfect for you is…

The one YOU look great in!

It’s now that simple because all of the above pant styles are ‘in.’

The days of only one style being in style are OVER!! And, thank goodness.

When you wear ‘what’s in’ but it doesn’t look good on you… you’ll feel uncomfortable, self-conscious, and annoyed because you’ve wasted money once again.

Which style makes YOU look longer, leaner, and more comfortable?

This takes experimenting if you don’t already know which styles and proportions are perfect for you,

When you do know the perfect pant style for you, it will keep you from wearing a style that can make your tummy and hips look bigger, or your legs appear shorter.

However, you might be many years in asking yourself:

  • What the heck does looks good on me?
  • Why do I never love the clothes I buy?
  • Why can’t I find clothes that fit me?
  • Why do other women always seem dressed better than me?

Yes, you can wear whatever pant style you want, but you might still be wondering…what is the perfect pant style for me.

You are exactly why I created the Powerful Presence VIP  Intensive.

The Perfect Pant Style For You

If it’s been years of you never loving what you wear, even with the help of a blog or magazines. That’s why YOU are the perfect person I made the VIP day for.

And the reason you want it is because, in the scope of ONE DAY, we define & discover your personal style, including the perfect pant style for you, and end your getting-dressed stress!

You will dress confidently & be ready to tackle anything on your schedule. Every day!

This VIP Day is for you if you’re ab-so-lute-ly ready to:

  • Confidently walk out of your closet every day looking stylish & pulled-together
  • Stop wasting money on clothes that don’t work for you
  • Feel excited (Yes! It’s possible!) when getting dressed every day
  • Know how to quickly pull together an outfit – and feel sure it’ll look great on you

Not sure you want a VIP Day but do you want wardrobe styling help?  Get on a call with me here.

How To Avoid A Wardrobe Malfunction

How To Avoid A Wardrobe Malfunction

The best stories come from either my clients or the women who want to work with me.

I’ll share one with you a few sentences from here, but first…

We’ve all had the experience of something in our outfit either busting open or barely
fitting properly, and one way to avoid wearing an outfit that will make you very uncomfortable is to sit it out.

Yup, I mean sit down.

I encourage you to sit down when you put an outfit on or try on a new piece of clothing.

If…

  • You feel constricted, hear a strain, or a pop, don’t wear it, and definitely don’t buy it.
  • It is uncomfortable, don’t wear it, and definitely don’t buy it.
  • You tell yourself you’ll lose weight first, don’t wear it, and definitely don’t buy it. 
  • You can’t sit down without feeling miserable or potentially embarrassed,
    don’t wear it, and definitely don’t buy it.

So, here’s the story from a woman I spoke to this week, who wants my help getting her
closet filled with outfits that will fit, and flatter her.

All she simply wants and will get, are clothes that she can’t wait to wear. Sound familiar?

She wants to replace the mistakes hanging in her closet and showed me one of
her expensive examples.

It was a very pretty 3-piece pant set that a salesperson talked her into buying
for her daughter’s wedding a couple of years ago.

The jacket and pants were nice, but the sleeveless tank was much shorter than what I would have picked out for her. It simply wasn’t long enough to fully cover her stomach.

The tailor she took the outfit too, offered a solution. He would add snaps to connect the tank to her pants. 🤔

That looked great when she was standing, but at the wedding and reception, she was seated.

So what do you think happened when she sat?

Yes, you guessed it…SNAP, SNAP, SNAP!

But, if she had done the sit test, or, even better, had known me back a few years, she would never

have been so self-conscious and uncomfortable on such an important day in her and her daughter’s life.

Take a seat when trying on outfits, and you will know how to avoid a wardrobe malfunction that will ruin your day or night.

I’ve never heard of attaching snaps from a top to a pair of pants, and for good reason. It’s a VERY bad idea.

PS. If you find yourself standing in your PJs each morning, staring into your closet hoping that today’s the day you’ll find an outfit that fits you perfectly…stay tuned for a new and quick way to have a closet full of clothes that makes you confidently happy and stylish!

Want to know more? Add your name to the waitlist HERE, and get an Early Bird price only available to the first 3 who sign up.

How To Avoid A Wardrobe Malfunction

How To Create New Outfits

How To Create New Outfits

Tips On How To Create New Outfits.

I’m baaaack on Better Than Gossip TV on Binge Networks.

In this episode you’ll hear:

  • How to create new outfits using the clothes you already own.
  • Why not being able to close your jacket is ok.
  • Why weight is not the reason you don’t know what to wear.
  • That I’m not a fan of dummies, AKA store mannequins.
  • The words all my new clients tell me.
  • How to get inspired to say these words to yourself.
  • and sooo much more.

Watch until the end to get the 5-Day Wear What You Have Challenge details, and
you’ll be surprised by the outfits you’ll come up with.

And then she said…

“Thank you Scarlett – so much great advice – my closets are so, so much easier to navigate – You made editing easy and possible – the idea of getting dressed without hassle and wasted time and money is just thrilling – so many better things to do. I am thrilled with “Less is More.”

My Favorite Things 2022

Oprah shouldn’t be the only one who gets to share her faves, so here are My Favorite Things 2022.

Some make great stocking stuffers, others gifts, and all are perfect to give to yourself because you deserve them!

My Favorite Things 2022

Brush Blow Dryer – This blowdryer has changed my life! When my hair is close to dry, I use this dryer for no more than 5 minutes, and I no longer look like I put my finger in a socket.

My Favorite Things 2022

Eyelash Lift – I get my eyelashes permed so they are not stick-straight and I don’t have to use an eyelash curler.
I go to Julia Brown in Collinsville CT. She’s wonderful and in a very cool location.

Bathing SuitMiraclesuit bathing suits. Yes, they are pricey but boy do they suck in where we need them to. A coupon for $50 off pops up when you go to their site and they have styles on sale.
Note: Be sure to read my sizing tips here before you choose what size to order any bathing suit.

My Favorite Things 2022

 

Moisturizer – I LOVE this . I mean LOVE it, and I’m pretty sure you will too.

No-Show Knee-His – The solution to the should I or shouldn’t I wear . These are a great answer
to the should I or shouldn’t I wear socks with specific shoes.

L’oreal Smoldering Eyeliner – When I need to give my a boost for going online or outside. Great value and long-lasting.

Camera Covers – Protect your privacy with these covers for your computer, iPad, phone, or whatever device you own that has a camera.
Recently I was in my bathrobe right in front of my computer, w/o makeup on, getting ready for the day while attending a Zoom event. I thought my camera was off, but it wasn’t. 😬😬😬😳😳😳
Thank goodness I had the camera cover on my computer in the closed position and all the hundreds of other attendees saw was a black square.

My Favorite Things 2022

Tiara Shower Caps – This is the 2nd year I’m recommending these great caps.
Stay tuned, because soon she is rolling out a fabulous natural deodorant that actually works!

My Favorite Things 2022

Happy Holidays and Happy Shopping!!!

How to pick out eyeglass frames

Eyeglasses can be costly and knowing how to pick out the right eyeglass frames will save you money and aggravation.

They’re also a great accessory, so choosing the right pair can also make your outfit even better.

Eventually, most of us will need eyeglasses and trying to find a pair that we look good in
and love to wear can be overwhelming.

There are a few things to keep in mind when choosing eyeglass frames. First, consider your face shape. If you have a round face, you’ll want to avoid round frames, which will only accentuate the shape of your face. Instead, go for angular frames, which will help to slim down your appearance. If you have an oval-shaped face, you’re lucky – pretty much any frame style will look good on you!

Second, think about the color of the frames. You’ll want to choose a color that complements your skin tone and hair color.

Here I am, about 8 years ago in the video below, sharing even more tips on how to pick out eyeglass frames that are flattering.

Based on how I was looking at the wrong place on my computer, I could have used a pair myself.

And then she said:
Scarlett has been amazing in upgrading my wardrobe so that it’s now professional, attractive, and ready for anything! When I wore one of the beautiful business suits that she selected, I was able to exert full authority as I advocated for a hospitalized client in an explosive situation. This is just one example of the unexpected effects of dressing for the part. Scarlett, thank you, thank you, thank you! Ruth Levy
How to pick out eyeglass frames

 

 

 

 

Is Your Closet Scary?

😱😱😱😱😱😱 Is Your Closet Scary? 😱😱😱😱😱😱

Are you always looking for new ways to organize?

Me too.

Then you’re going to enjoy my guest contributor, Kitti Andrews, a Thought Organizer.

Yes, you read that right, she’s a THOUGHT organizer.

What is keeping you from de-cluttering and letting go of ‘stuff’ in your home and closets,
could be because you have ghosts, and Kitti will explain what that means.

Just watch and you’ll see why you might have them in your midst.

Oh, and be sure to catch Kitty’s tip on the one thing you can do right now, that will make your closet immediately less messy, stressful and overwhelming.

It’s a great tip!

 

Here’s the link to Kitty’s Free Gift: 7 Easy Steps To Conquer Your Physical & Mental Clutter, plus my guide:
End Your Closet Shame – learn how to let go of the clothes that are doing you wrong. 

Is your closet scary?
Is your closet scary?
Then grab the Free Tips above to bring calm and order to your closet.