Styling Tips to Help You Stop Stressing About Dressing

Author: Scarlett De Bease

How To Check What Your Photo Is Saying

How To Check What Your Photo Is Saying

Here’s how to check what your photo is saying, and the message it’s really sending.

Go to  and upload the photo(s) you use for social media, dating sites, or your website, and for free discover what people will see and feel from looking at your pics.

Here’s what this photo of me is saying:

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I did not look up the dating score in case my husband reads my blog. 😂😂😂😂

Go see what your photo is saying to your audience, and see if it is what you intended.

And then she said:

Working with Scarlett De Bease hasn’t been “work.” It’s been a joy. Like many women, over time I’ve transitioned through wardrobe and physical changes. Scarlett helped me not only clear the clutter from my closet but also my inner critic. My sense of what colors, shapes, and styles look best on me feels sharper. I have confidence as I shop online or in person for what’s right for me, and what I can leave on the rack. (In the past, many of those items would have come home and remained on a hanger or consigned). Today I browsed in a favorite store and noticed many items aren’t for me, but I also let the manager know what I’m looking for and she’ll set them aside for me. It creates sustainable habits for my wallet and the planet. Win-win. Let Scarlett get into your head and wardrobe and you’ll find yourself winning, too! Kathy Koenig

personal style consultant

Do you deny, resist, and ignore your problems?

Do you deny, resist, and ignore your what-to-wear problems?

I hear it all the time from women, who wish they hadn’t wished for years pretending there wasn’t a problem hiding in their closet.

The video below explains what I’m talking about, and if you are ready to be confident when you walk into the room, send me a message with the subject line ME.

Here are a few telltale signs you are tired of guessing what you should wear:

  • You have lots of price tags in your closet from clothes you bought but have never actually worn.
  • When heading to an event you give yourself a little fashion show and end up so disappointed that you consider not going.
  • You’re hanging on to old clothes you used to love in the hopes that someday you’ll “fit into them again”.
  • You feel like clothes shopping is stressful and a big waste of your time.
  • You dream of being able to open your closet and easily pick something to wear you know you’ll look fabulous in without being embarrassed bumping into someone you know.

Sounds like you?
Then we should talk. Contact me for a complimentary Be the Best Dressed Woman In The Room session, and let’s see if we’d be a good fit for working together, and getting you the best-fitting and looking clothes to increase your income, impact, and influence.

Do you deny, resist, and ignore your problems

Tips To Avoid Buying The Wrong Clothes.

Tips To Avoid Buying The Wrong Clothes.

When you know the tips to avoid buying the wrong clothes, you’ll find yourself getting less
frustrated looking into your closet and seeing all the money you’ve wasted on clothes.

Step 1: Look both ways when trying on clothes.
Add a third way never hurts by looking behind yourself too.

Here I am trying on a top that is a twist, kinda literally, on a basic white top.

From the front, I’m loving the waist-defining feature of the tie front.

Step 2: From the side, oh NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO. Heck no. Like, so not happening/buying.
Tips to avoid buying the wrong clothes

You likely have a few, or yikes many, pieces in your closet that don’t look great on you from one or more angles, and you’re so tired of wasting money on those clothes.

Very tired.

I get it. I know it’s frustrating that you think you should be able to choose the right clothes to wear and buy, but year after year you still don’t.

That’s why I’m here.

That’s why I created my personal wardrobe styling service.

If you relate to the women I speak about in this video below, write ME in an email to

Note: The gathering along my bustline was also a no, and the pants I was trying on were a thumbs-down for sure.

Stephen Colbert gave me styling advice

Stephen Colbert gave me styling advice!

Yes, it’s true: Stephen Colbert gave me styling advice!

Stephen Colbert gave me styling advice

Yup, that’s my husband and me as VIP guests at The Late Show with Stephen Colbert.

No, we didn’t plan our outfits but isn’t it weird how couples tend to match without even trying?

As a VIP guest, you have the opportunity to go on stage and ask Stephen questions off camera, and being one who never shies away from an opportunity, I quickly raised my hand and he picked me to ask away.

Here’s what I asked, and as a personal stylist I simply couldn’t resist:

“What is the first thing you take off and put on when you get home after work?”

Without a moment’s hesitation, he told me the first thing he puts on before he walks through the door is a smile for his wife.

I mean come on, how wonderful is that????

And he’s right. The best accessory is a smile, and when you’re wearing clothes that make you look and feel confident and attractive, smiling is so, so much easier. It’s automatic.

Speaking of smiling, here is an unsolicited testimonial a client gave me, that made me smile and tear up. I’d be crazy not to share it with you.

“My experience with Scarlett was a wonderful internal and external journey. I not only experience joy getting dressed every day, but was reminded that it’s okay to wait for something I actually like.

Moving to Southern California from San Francisco, I noticed that if I wasn’t wearing athletic clothes,  I was often asked,  “Why are you so dressed up.”  This was even if I was wearing jeans.  Eventually, my San Francisco clothes got old, and my style became frumpy and drab.

Scarlett’s online closet, where I saw all my worn and over-washed clothes, helped me see that I have really neglected my esthetics for some time.

As a psychotherapist, it has been an illuminating internal journey.  

Being the 3rd sister growing up, I was used to oversized hand-me-downs, which were clothes I never liked but accepted. As an adult, I often settled for colors and styles that were just mediocre.

What I appreciate about Scarlett is that she was not offended if I didn’t like what she picked out and assured me she was not the designer and was fine with it.  

She did a great job learning my style and I would recommend her to anyone who wants to refresh their wardrobe. 

I now have new shoes, jeans, belts, dresses, and great workout clothes.  I loved it!  An excellent project of self-love and self-respect.  I highly recommend Scarlett to help you find your inner queen again.”

Freda Salamy

Stephen Colbert gave me styling advice
If you’re ready to stop guessing what clothes are right for you and instead learn which are perfect for you to wear, pick a time here and I’ll tell you how you’d be smiling every day too.


Are you making excuses?

There have been many times a new client confessed that prior to working with me, she often did this when invited to events.

It pains me to hear these stories and the fun that was missed.

Watch my brief video below, and please don’t let this happen to you.

You deserve to be happy and confident about what you wear, and never think that you can’t.




Tips To Find A Bathing Suit

Tips To Find A Bathing Suit That Fits

It takes only 2 to find a well-fitting bathing suit.

2 is the magic number.

Do not and I mean do not try a bathing suit on in your clothing size.

I have no idea why the swimsuit and wedding dress designers chose to size their designs differently than clothes, but they did. 

And they make women feel big and unhappy.

You should try on suits in 1 to 2 sizes up from your clothing size, and if you don’t you’re destined for a miserable, ego-deflating shopping experience because the swimsuit will be too tight and short on you.

Go up and you’ll look and feel like you went down a size or two.

Give it a try and let me know how it goes.

For more Tips To Find A Bathing Suit, read this blog I wrote a few years ago.


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Extra, Extra!

In the last few months, I’ve gotten some emails with the subject and opening lines from clients that either made me laugh out loud, think it was spam, or simply made me smile as I was reminded of why I do what I do.

Here are just a few as I received them:

  • Thanks for the find!
  • we nailed it – photoshoot
  • Need Outfit idea for a play
  • How do you do that?
  • Impressed!
  • Thanks for the find!
  • I could use your help again!

Let’s have some fun.

I showed you mine so please, now show me yours.
If you were going to send me an email about what you want or need in your closet, what would your opening or subject lines be?

Better Than Gossip's Podcast

Better Than Gossip’s Podcast

Here I am in Better Than Gossip’s podcast giving you the tips and incentive to change your clothes and how you see yourself in them.

In today’s episode of Better Than Gossip, Amy and Lisa chat with Scarlett DeBease, an image consultant, personal stylist, speaker, and author of Stop Stressing About Dressing. Scarlett has the incredible gift of helping women dress in a way that makes them feel empowered and show up as their best selves.

What You’ll Learn on this Show:

  • How to dress for a date and get back out there confidently after two long years spent indoors.
  • Why you need to have a sense of humor when it comes to dressing.
  • How to accessorize and get the proportions right.
  • How Scarlett got her start in fashion and her No. 1 outfit recommendation for all women.
  • And so much more…

Listen here.


You never know what’s going to happen when you wear leggings because they lie to us.” — Scarlett DeBease.

You can try it on and see if you look fabulous or ridiculous, but you won’t know until you try it on.” — Scarlett DeBease.

top 2022 fashion trend

The Only Trend You Should Wear

Here’s the top 2022 fashion trend, but know I hate trends for my clients.

There I said it.

Trends are designed to make you buy new clothes.

New clothes are wonderful as long as they look good on you, and when a trend doesn’t look good on you, neither will your new clothes.

There are tons of clothing style choices these days that don’t look ridiculously trendy but do slim us down and elevate our style.

But, I do have one exception.

The hottest trend for this year is…Dopamine Dressing!!

Dopamine Dressing involves dressing with the intention of boosting your mood, and when you wear clothes that make you look and feel slimmer, confident, approachable, and put-together, you’ll be boosted every single day of the year!

Here’s a bit more of my thoughts on fashion trends and dressing to look and feel happy:

I hope you’ve enjoyed this video. I’d love to know your thoughts on this trend- click reply to let me know!

Until next time!

P.S. When you’re ready, here are 3 ways I can help you:

  1. If you’re ready to dress to make your stomach look flatter, your butt look smaller, and your style less frumpy; if you’re ready to feel confident in your clothes…sign up for my video course today.
  2. Tired of spending hours (or years?!) looking for the perfect jeans? We solve finding the perfect jeans for your body – and other similar topics – on my YouTube channel.
    Subscribe today.
  3. Are you often frustrated when trying to figure out what to wear? Virtual wardrobe styling is the answer! You’ll learn which style of clothes and accessories you should wear and avoid without leaving the comfort of your home or office. Click here to learn more.
How To Match Your Clothes

How To Match Your Clothes

Have something in your closet you never wear?

Maybe, just maybe, it’s because it doesn’t match anything else you have.

And if it doesn’t match one or more other clothes in your closet, you won’t wear it and you’ve wasted your money.

So next time you buy or look at a scarf or top you already own, pick them up and do this quick exercise that I show in the video below.

You’ll discover new combinations or see that it doesn’t match anything you own.

Here’s a Quick Tip On How To Match Your Clothes in the video below.

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