Author: Scarlett De Bease

Tips To Avoid Buying The Wrong Clothes.

When you know the tips to avoid buying the wrong clothes, you’ll find yourself getting less
frustrated looking into your closet and seeing all the money you’ve wasted on clothes.

Step 1: Look both ways when trying on clothes.
Add a third way never hurts by looking behind yourself too.

Tips To Avoid Buying The Wrong Clothes.

Here I am trying on a top that is a twist, kinda literally, on a basic white top.

From the front, I’m loving the waist-defining feature of the tie front.

Step 2: From the side, oh NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO. Heck no. Like, so not happening/buying.
Tips to avoid buying the wrong clothes

You likely have a few, or yikes many, pieces in your closet that don’t look great on you from one or more angles, and you’re so tired of wasting money on those clothes.

Very tired.

I get it. I know it’s frustrating that you think you should be able to choose the right clothes to wear and buy, but year after year you still don’t.

That’s why I’m here.

That’s why I created my personal wardrobe styling service.

If you relate to the women I speak about in this video below, write ME in an email to

Note: The gathering along my bustline was also a no, and the pants I was trying on were a thumbs-down for sure.

Stephen Colbert gave me styling advice!

Yes, it’s true: Stephen Colbert gave me styling advice!

Stephen Colbert gave me styling advice

Yup, that’s my husband and me as VIP guests at The Late Show with Stephen Colbert.

No, we didn’t plan our outfits but isn’t it weird how couples tend to match without even trying?

As a VIP guest, you have the opportunity to go on stage and ask Stephen questions off camera, and being one who never shies away from an opportunity, I quickly raised my hand and he picked me to ask away.

Here’s what I asked, and as a personal stylist I simply couldn’t resist:

“What is the first thing you take off and put on when you get home after work?”

Without a moment’s hesitation, he told me the first thing he puts on before he walks through the door is a smile for his wife.

I mean come on, how wonderful is that????

And he’s right. The best accessory is a smile, and when you’re wearing clothes that make you look and feel confident and attractive, smiling is so, so much easier. It’s automatic.

Speaking of smiling, here is an unsolicited testimonial a client gave me, that made me smile and tear up. I’d be crazy not to share it with you.

“My experience with Scarlett was a wonderful internal and external journey. I not only experience joy getting dressed every day, but was reminded that it’s okay to wait for something I actually like.

Moving to Southern California from San Francisco, I noticed that if I wasn’t wearing athletic clothes,  I was often asked,  “Why are you so dressed up.”  This was even if I was wearing jeans.  Eventually, my San Francisco clothes got old, and my style became frumpy and drab.

Scarlett’s online closet, where I saw all my worn and over-washed clothes, helped me see that I have really neglected my esthetics for some time.

As a psychotherapist, it has been an illuminating internal journey.  

Being the 3rd sister growing up, I was used to oversized hand-me-downs, which were clothes I never liked but accepted. As an adult, I often settled for colors and styles that were just mediocre.

What I appreciate about Scarlett is that she was not offended if I didn’t like what she picked out and assured me she was not the designer and was fine with it.  

She did a great job learning my style and I would recommend her to anyone who wants to refresh their wardrobe. 

I now have new shoes, jeans, belts, dresses, and great workout clothes.  I loved it!  An excellent project of self-love and self-respect.  I highly recommend Scarlett to help you find your inner queen again.”

Freda Salamy

Stephen Colbert gave me styling advice
If you’re ready to stop guessing what clothes are right for you and instead learn which are perfect for you to wear, pick a time here and I’ll tell you how you’d be smiling every day too.


Are you making excuses?

There have been many times a new client confessed that prior to working with me, she often did this when invited to events.

It pains me to hear these stories and the fun that was missed.

Watch my brief video below, and please don’t let this happen to you.

You deserve to be happy and confident about what you wear, and never think that you can’t.




Tips To Find A Bathing Suit That Fits

It takes only 2 to find a well-fitting bathing suit.

2 is the magic number.

Do not and I mean do not try a bathing suit on in your clothing size.

I have no idea why the swimsuit and wedding dress designers chose to size their designs differently than clothes, but they did. 

And they make women feel big and unhappy.

You should try on suits in 1 to 2 sizes up from your clothing size, and if you don’t you’re destined for a miserable, ego-deflating shopping experience because the swimsuit will be too tight and short on you.

Go up and you’ll look and feel like you went down a size or two.

Give it a try and let me know how it goes.

For more Tips To Find A Bathing Suit, read this blog I wrote a few years ago.


Extra, Extra!

In the last few months, I’ve gotten some emails with the subject and opening lines from clients that either made me laugh out loud, think it was spam, or simply made me smile as I was reminded of why I do what I do.

Here are just a few as I received them:

  • Thanks for the find!
  • we nailed it – photoshoot
  • Need Outfit idea for a play
  • How do you do that?
  • Impressed!
  • Thanks for the find!
  • I could use your help again!

Let’s have some fun.

I showed you mine so please, now show me yours.
If you were going to send me an email about what you want or need in your closet, what would your opening or subject lines be?

Better Than Gossip's Podcast

Better Than Gossip’s Podcast

Here I am in Better Than Gossip’s podcast giving you the tips and incentive to change your clothes and how you see yourself in them.

In today’s episode of Better Than Gossip, Amy and Lisa chat with Scarlett DeBease, an image consultant, personal stylist, speaker, and author of Stop Stressing About Dressing. Scarlett has the incredible gift of helping women dress in a way that makes them feel empowered and show up as their best selves.

What You’ll Learn on this Show:

  • How to dress for a date and get back out there confidently after two long years spent indoors.
  • Why you need to have a sense of humor when it comes to dressing.
  • How to accessorize and get the proportions right.
  • How Scarlett got her start in fashion and her No. 1 outfit recommendation for all women.
  • And so much more…

Listen here.


You never know what’s going to happen when you wear leggings because they lie to us.” — Scarlett DeBease.

You can try it on and see if you look fabulous or ridiculous, but you won’t know until you try it on.” — Scarlett DeBease.

The Only Trend You Should Wear

Here’s the top 2022 fashion trend, but know I hate trends for my clients.

There I said it.

Trends are designed to make you buy new clothes.

New clothes are wonderful as long as they look good on you, and when a trend doesn’t look good on you, neither will your new clothes.

There are tons of clothing style choices these days that don’t look ridiculously trendy but do slim us down and elevate our style.

But, I do have one exception.

The hottest trend for this year is…Dopamine Dressing!!

Dopamine Dressing involves dressing with the intention of boosting your mood, and when you wear clothes that make you look and feel slimmer, confident, approachable, and put-together, you’ll be boosted every single day of the year!

Here’s a bit more of my thoughts on fashion trends and dressing to look and feel happy:

I hope you’ve enjoyed this video. I’d love to know your thoughts on this trend- click reply to let me know!

Until next time!

P.S. When you’re ready, here are 3 ways I can help you:

  1. If you’re ready to dress to make your stomach look flatter, your butt look smaller, and your style less frumpy; if you’re ready to feel confident in your clothes…sign up for my video course today.
  2. Tired of spending hours (or years?!) looking for the perfect jeans? We solve finding the perfect jeans for your body – and other similar topics – on my YouTube channel.
    Subscribe today.
  3. Are you often frustrated when trying to figure out what to wear? Virtual wardrobe styling is the answer! You’ll learn which style of clothes and accessories you should wear and avoid without leaving the comfort of your home or office. Click here to learn more.

How To Match Your Clothes

Have something in your closet you never wear?

Maybe, just maybe, it’s because it doesn’t match anything else you have.

And if it doesn’t match one or more other clothes in your closet, you won’t wear it and you’ve wasted your money.

So next time you buy or look at a scarf or top you already own, pick them up and do this quick exercise that I show in the video below.

You’ll discover new combinations or see that it doesn’t match anything you own.

Here’s a Quick Tip On How To Match Your Clothes in the video below.

Clothes Shopping Mistake

It’s time for you to stop making this very common
clothes shopping mistake.

Stop buying more of what you already own.

When it comes to buying clothes, you are likely drawn to what you’re used to wearing, even if it might not be your most flattering look or fit.

And then, you buy it over and over. Be it another pair of black pants, leggings, a top you have in multiple colors, etc.

Break your habit, and try on something you’ve never worn before. Hey, even I need to do this sometimes.

I promise you’ll be happily surprised when a totally different style, fit and color looks very good on you, and then your closet won’t be filled with clothes that all look the same and you won’t be bored like this woman was.

Tiny tweaks make big differences in how we look, and when you know the ones perfect for your unique features and life, you will stop feeling bad when you go out and start feeling and looking like the fabulous woman you are.

Here is another one of my tips for you to use starting today..

When you’re ready to stop feeling less than and turning down invitations and other opportunities, book a complimentary Know What To Wear Call with me and find out how to get outfits that will get you excited to go out and be seen.



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