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Six Ways To Elevate Your Style

6 Easy Ways to Elevate Your Look

As I get older, I spend more on myself, trying out different styles and buying more expensive clothes than I used to.

As you get older, change is beneficial and helps turn back the clock on your self-image.

Try following these six ways to elevate your style and discover that you can look better than you have in years.

  1. Stop wearing clothing that is too tight or too big for you. Wearing improperly fitting clothes is aging, uncomfortable, and sends the message that you ignore yourself and your career. If your seams are straining or your pants are too loose, please make finding the right-fitting clothes a top priority.
  2. Wear less makeup than you did in your 20s, or consider wearing some makeup if you’ve never worn it before. There is a balance to seek, and sometimes mascara and lipstick are all that you need.
  3. Don’t wear outdatedlooking clothes, as that guarantees looking and feeling older, out of date, and stuck in the past. Just because it still fits, does not mean it should still be worn.
  4. Stay on top of your roots. Not your family roots, but the ones on your head. Don’t let it be so apparent that you are covering up gray hair. Between salon visits, there are various touch-up products available to cover up gray hair or match your highlights. I love this one by WOW.
  5. Find out what clothes work best for your particular body shape and which manufacturers design clothing for your particular shape.
  6. Don’t wear shoes that look like they are for problem feet. There are so many choices these days in footwear that are stylish and comfortable.

Here are a few of my favorite shoe brands at a variety of price points for you to check out:
  • Vionic Wide width available.
  • Ally Narrow and wide widths.
  • Gentle Souls
  • Munro Narrow and wide widths. They have closed production, but you can still get a few great styles.
  • Vivaia Limited wide width available. 
Making one or all of the above simple changes will be a big factor in how you and others see yourself. After all, you’re now wiser, more confident, full of experience—and soon, you’ll be dressing better than ever!

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Easy eye makeup tip for you!

Easy eye makeup tip for you!

When it comes to applying eyeshadow, technique matters, and the tools you use can make all the difference. In my latest video, I’m sharing a quick tip that can quickly and easily correct mistakes and make your application look professional.

One of my favorite tools is this Blender Brush. If you’ve ever struggled with blending or creating a smooth transition between colors, this brush is a must-have. It’s soft, easy to use, and gives your eyeshadow that seamless finish you’ll love.

Before applying any shadow, I always recommend starting with a good primer. It helps the color pop and keeps everything in place all day. I’ve been using this Eye Shadow Primer and I love how lightweight and effective it is.

Let me know what you think and if you try them out!


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Get A Bra Fitting To Look Thinner

Do you Know Where Your Breasts Are?

Get A Bra Fitting To Look Thinner, taller, and make your outfits instantly fit better.

Remember what Grandma used to look like when she was wearing an old bra or shudders, no bra at all?

Just because we get older and gravity is having a big laugh on behalf of a variety of our body parts, we can easily lift up our breasts to where they belong.

Did you know that when you are wearing poor fitting and old bras you most probably look older than you are or feel? Who wants that?

Go get a professional bra fitting, and expect to be amazed.

Without a proper fitting bra, your waistline appears bigger, clothes don’t fit properly, and you look hunched over. None of these seem like desirable options, so head over to a local lingerie shop or department of a major department. I do prefer a local store for starters, since I like the idea of supporting your community, while they are literally about to support you!

If you never had a professional bra fitting, you don’t know what you’re missing. When you discover what size you really are, as chances are you are indeed wearing the wrong size, you will be delighted at how good you and yours can look in a proper fitting bra.

It’s time for a professional bra fitting, if it has been a year or more since you replaced them.

I know bras can be very expensive, and it hurts to have to replace them, but odds are that after one year, they are no longer doing the job they were intended to; keeping you up, centered and proud! Bras get worn our just like we do after exercise, and keeping breasts up where they should be, can be exhausting!

Remember that not only will you look better; you’ll also feel a lot better when you see how uplifting this experience will be.

So, when should you get new bras?

Almost every time I have a wardrobe styling consultation with a client, I ask when was the last time they had a bra fitting or bought new bras?
I remember one new client in particular who was about 60 years old, and had bras that were clearly past their expiration date. When I showed her, by pulling her straps up, that there was so much space being taken up by her breasts being down, she saw for herself that a few new bras were clearly needed.

I took her to the lingerie department of the store where we had just finished getting her fantastic new clothes and I left her in the dressing room with the bras the sales associate had given her after measuring her to determine what size and style bra in which she would look best.
Suddenly I heard a woman screaming from the dressing room, and quickly realized it was my client. I ran to her dressing room and asked her if she was all right. Turns out, she was shouting with joy. She was so excited, because as she told me, “ I didn’t know my breasts could look like this again”.

So, when should you get a new bra? There are a few key factors into when you should get a new bra:

  1. If you have lost or gained 10 lbs. or more, than your bra size has probably changed as well.
  2. Your straps need constant readjustments as the elastic is stretched out.
  3. Your breasts are heading further south or going east & west at the same time. Trust me, it happens.
  4. Your posture is getting worse.

But here is the best incentive to get a professional bra fitting and a few new bras: You will have a more visible waistline when your breasts are up where they belong. When you lengthen the space between the breasts and hips, you will have a more defined waist and all your clothes will look 100% better on you.

Get ready to definitely look younger, thinner and taller when wearing a great fitting bra. You will definitely stand taller; look thinner, feel younger as your bust will be up where it used to be in your teen years but thankfully, without all the high school drama.


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How To Not Make Your Hips or Thighs Look Wider

How To Not Make Your Hips or
Thighs Look Wider

Don’t wear pants like these!

Beware of pockets like these, because hips don’t lie.Thank you, Shakira.

There are a lot of pants out there these days with large pockets at the hips and tummy. If you are straight and not hippy or round, it’s fine to wear them; however, is that where you want to draw attention? When shopping, be aware of this pocket style. Do try another style of pants that don’t have this large pocket detail. Then compare which style is more flattering on you. Shop like Goldilocks or Shakira to get it just right.


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A Secret Shopping Spot

A Secret Shopping Spot

For gifts for yourself or others, a great place to find unique, pretty, and well-priced accessories is in museum gift shops.

I knew that, but also forgot.

Last week, I gave a Stop Stressing About Dressing presentation to a great group of women, and one brave man, at the Bruce Museum in Greenwich, CT.
I needed to be there at 8:30 on a Saturday morning, so my routine was a bit off.

While driving, I realized I forgot to put my earrings and ring on.

The person who was going to advise on what to wear and how to accessorize forgot her accessories!!!! Ugh, yikes, and 🤪.

But it was meant to be. Waiting for me was a rack full of beautiful scarves, bags, and tops, a table filled with pretty jewelry, and a beautifully curated gift shop where I was able to borrow a pair of earrings and rings so my outfit was complete. Whew!

A Secret Shopping Spot

Below are the earrings I purchased for myself in the Bruce Museum gift shop.

They are completely different than anything I own or have seen in traditional retail stores, and I love them!

A Secret Shopping Spot


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How to make heels comfortable

How to make heels comfortable
Love your heels but hate the pain?

We all have that one pair of high heels that look amazing but are tough to wear for long. In this video, I’ll show you a tip on how to make your high heels feel lower and a lot more comfortable. Whether you’re heading to work, a special event, or just dressing up for the day, this easy fix can help you enjoy your heels without the usual discomfort.

Check out the video below to see how to make heels more comfortable. 


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Clothing Size Doesn’t Matter

Clothing Size Doesn’t Matter

Ever find yourself in your bedroom or a dressing room determined to get into a pair of pants no matter how long it may take to get them on?

If the label is showing a size that you have worn before, surely it will fit again because darn it, your willpower is way bigger than your thighs, right? Wrong. In the case of finding clothes that fit and flatter, size doesn’t and shouldn’t matter.

Way too often a woman beats herself up because the size she used to wear or wants to be in is no longer is an option. Rather than once again vowing you won’t eat much that day or actually use your gym membership, try not to focus on the size label but instead concentrate on how your clothes fit the body you have.

I am not trying to discourage women from healthy diets and exercise, but if it has been awhile since you swore you would lose that baby fat 25 years ago, or the extra weight you gained attending college and you are close to attending your own child’s college graduation, isn’t it time to let go of the smaller size label and focus instead on properly fitting into the size you are now? Imagine a man going into a store looking for a new pair of pants and discovering that the 34 waist he typically wears is a bit snug. He doesn’t storm out irritated or squeeze into the too-tight pants barely able to walk. Rather the angel of men’s clothing departments, also known as the tailor, descends upon him and his salesperson with his magic tape measure and turns the next size up into the perfect fitting pair of pants.

Ladies, you too can have your own fit angel, except you have to seek him or her out in better stores or in your locality. So if the size 10 pants, top or dress is snug in some spots go up one size, and have a tailor take in the loose fitting areas. Then you will have clothes that fit like they were made just for you.

Keep in mind that nobody gets a compliment based on the size printed on his or her clothing. Compliments and comfort occur from how great your clothes fit when tailored for your curves. Being a size six does not equal happiness and success. Having a wardrobe that opens up doors for you can lead you to possibilities beyond your wildest dreams.

I have size 18 clients who are far better dressed than the Twenty Somethings they work with, because they stopped waiting to lose weight before investing in proper fitting and flattering clothes.

Alert: Try not to have distaste for the larger size labels. One of my clients once did. She so hated seeing what size she wore, that she had cut out the size tag out of EVERY single piece of clothing she owned, so that when I got to her home she had no idea what size she or any of her clothes were.

What was also interesting is that she disliked almost all of her clothes and had not gone shopping for new ones for years. She complained so much about never having anything to wear despite a closet full of tagless pieces, that her husband hired me to end her daily lament.

After I showed her what clothes would look great on her and how size wasn’t what was causing her fear of figuring out what to wear, it was time to go shopping for the right clothes. This was a very easy decision to make. What size to select for her to try on was not. So do yourself a favor, and think of size tags the same as those tags on mattresses with the warning label; Do Not Remove Under Penalty of Law.

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Step Back From The Rack

Shopping Tip

Step Back From The Rack

You decide to do some clothes shopping, and there it is, a top or pair of pants that is practically calling your name. You seem to already know each other so well; after all it knows just what to whisper to your sub-conscious mind, hugs you like a an old friend, and makes you feel safe, protected and secure.

Wait a minute! I bet you already have an item in your closet verging on identical to the one you are being attracted to like a magnet.

If so, you are not alone. It is very common to be drawn to what we already have, know and like, even if it isn’t any good for you.

Remember that boy or girlfriend that made you feel like hell, yet you kept waiting for the phone to ring, or that potato chip you knew you shouldn’t eat, because like the rest of us, you couldn’t eat just one?

It is typical human behavior to want more of what we already have, despite the fact that the familiar is not always in our best interest.
Try to step back from the rack, but especially from the black. Women have a tendency to purchase yet another pair of black pants, despite already owning enough pairs to make blackout curtains for your bedroom.

Force yourself to move past the black clothes and the things that look like what you already have, and only buy what is NOT like what is already in your wardrobe.

If many of your clothes are similar then all your outfits will be as well. Hey, the expression variety is the spice of life resonates for a reason, right?

The real-life proof is in the photos below of my daughter who couldn’t resist checking out a few tops.

I was with my daughter, granddaughter, and son-in-law when he giggled, watching his wife look at a sweater pretty much identical to what she was wearing.

Exhibit A

Shopping tip

After pointing the similarity out to her, I kid you not, she did this.

Shopping tip

Note: I hope she doesn’t read this blog.



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