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Are You A Fashion Coward Shopper?

Don’t let this happen to you!!! 

This week it’s all about having a laugh.

Thank you Saturday Night Live, or for us cool kids SNL, for making a hilarious video about how some women play it safe when shopping for clothes.

I tell all who’ll listen to me, that your immediate reaction is the one that counts, and if you agree you’ll love what happens in this video within 30 seconds of trying to talk yourself into buying something.

Maybe Next Time You’ll Volunteer Too

I thought you’d enjoy seeing how I gave this wonderful and funny audience volunteer some of my what colors to wear tips when I presented to NAPO, The National Association of Productivity & Organizing Professionals.
She was so much fun to have up on the stage with me, but I was taken aback when she told me what she was once told by a color consultant a few years earlier.

 

Hmmm, does my below Virtual Wardrobe Styling client look familiar?

“I was tired of looking in my closet and seeing clothes that I had spent money on but would never wear. I hate to think about how much money I have wasted buying clothes only to donate them never worn.
In the past, I thought that if I buy more expensive, but fewer clothes, I would have more I’d like to wear. But really, regardless of spending $5 or $100 on something, it still looked lousy on me so I didn’t wear it. Cheap versus expensive was not the issue; it was not knowing what worked for me.
Hiring Scarlett, as my personal Image Curator, I love saying that, gave me the guidance to know what to wear, buy, where to find it, and she is amazing at finding deals on quality items!
I am continuing to learn as I try more things and see ‘wow, I really see what she means, this style does NOT work on me!’
The truth is, that I feel better when I am wearing my ‘Scarlett’ outfits.”
Christine Daves ThinkOrganized.com

Go here to see how YOU can change your struggles choosing what to wear.

Here’s An Easy Way To Make Your Neck Look longer

Wish you had Audrey Hepburn’s enviable long neck?

I do but I don’t.

But I do know how to not make my neck look shorter, therefore longer.

Do wear shorter earrings than long ones.

Don’t wear earrings longer than approximately your upper lip.

If you wear longer earrings, you’re going to make your neck look shorter and emphasize an already short neck.

Notice how the woman being used to model these earrings has a very, very long neck. Then imagine these earrings on a more average length neck…not so great, right?

 

Little details make a big impact and if you want to learn more about them, check out my April 26, 2019, Stop Stressing About Dressing Styling Workshop.

Only 3 out of 5 spots left.

 

4/26 Styling Event:

Introducing An Exclusive Scarlett Image Styling Event.
You’ve stood in front of a mirror multiple times & hated how you looked in the clothes you were wearing?
You’re tired of not knowing what to wear when you have events to attend?
You’ve tried changing your body and clothes many times…yet you’re still frustrated and …
Continue reading 4/26 Styling Event

Oscar Styling Do’s & Dont’s

I was asked to contribute to an online newsletter for women, about my picks for the top and not so top Oscar Styling Do’s & Dont’s, and I thought you’d like to see my thoughts and explanations.

Personal Opinion Note: No matter how beautiful a woman looks, if she needs help walking to get her Oscar because of her dress or shoes, then her outfit is not a winner.

And The Top 3 Oscar Winners Are:


Helen Mirren – She seems to get the Best dressed Oscar EVERY year. Elegant, figure flattering, arm covering, and full of gorgeous oomph when she walked or turned around.


Oscar Styling Do's & Dont's
Helen Mirren wins Best Dressed…again.

I would love a dress like this, with naturally a hint of red in the underskirt, for me to wear to my daughter’s wedding.

Regina King – Oh, how I love a shirred waist, as it creates and/or accentuates a hour glass figure. The beauty of this dress is its simplicity, and it can easily be altered to show less leg and no train, for those of us who are a bit less daring.

Oscar Styling Do's & Dont's
Shirring done right.

Melisa McCarthy – She’s got the 3 P’s!! Power, Personality and great Pants. Proof that you don’t have too be a size 4 to look amazing! The waist inset is perfect for her and the cape not only adds drama, but also helps make her middle look narrower. 

NOTE: On my FaceBook page, I got a few negative reviews on Melissa’s outfit, but I disgree. Rather than wear a tent like dress, she is showing off her curves and fabulous personality and I love that.

Oscar Styling Do's & Dont's
Waistline Definer

My 3 Least Favorites Are:

Tessa Thompson – Just because this dress is designed by Chanel, doesn’t mean Cocoa would be pleased. It looks like it was trimmed with recycled Christmas tree garland and the binding accentuates her hips which makes them look bigger and out of proportion with the rest of her great shape.

Oscar Styling Do's & Dont's
Never good to widen the middle.

Sandy Powell – I almost have no words except:
Q. What’s black and white and red all over? 
A. Sandy Powell on the red carpet.

I actually love this jacket, and with narrower legged pants it could be fantastic but not for the Oscar’s Red Carpet.

Oscar Styling Do's & Dont's
Not Red Carpet Ready.

Its a tie between Linda Cardellini and Kasey Musgraves.
It’s never good to look like your wearing one of Barbie’s gowns.

Barbie’s Clothes Should Not
Inspire A Designer.

Never.

I’m a strong believer that a woman looks best when she wears a dress that flatters her instead of overpowering her.
And if a dress resembles a little girls pink bedroom, I say pass.

Oscar Styling Do's & Dont's
Linda Cardellini
Oscar Styling Do's & Dont's
Kasey Musgraves

Pssst…Overheard In The Dressing Room

A hairdresser compliments his client by telling her he loves her outfit.
Her reply was telling him she had to change 5 times before settling on the outfit he liked.
His repsonse was “that’s why you look good!”

I love that story, and it was told to me by one of my recent new Virtual Styling clients. Now after getting my tips, she’ll likely not try on 5 different outfits to find the one she’ll leave the house in.

Here is her testimonial.

“Scarlett, THANK YOU SO MUCH for the Virtual Consultation! Your professional review & advice was very easy to follow. Your study of my wardrobe photos I sent to you including my colors, shapes & accessories helped me follow your advice. My “do’s” & my “don’ts” helped me see how to re-purpose & re-style my clothes, jewelry, scarves, shapes, colors, shoes, boots, handbags into new re-fashioned outfits right out of my own closet. Plus valuable suggestions for items I want to add to my new wardrobe.
AWESOME VALUE & TIME YOU SPENT WITH ME . . . & IT WAS LOTS OF FUN! MY NEW CALIFORNIA “STYLIN! LOVE IT!”
Dianne Moralez – Santa Rosa California


Does This Looks Good On Me?

Instead of my giving you a styling tip I’m asking for

YOUR opinion on something I’ve added to my
online closet…well actually my website.

I’ve worked with many women virtually but found, by simply asking, that many more didn’t even know that I offer virtual wardrobe styling.

That’s my mistake, and I’m here to fix it, so…

I’ve made a few changes to my website, but most importantly I finally added an actual page describing my Virtual Wardrobe Styling service and I would love to know how you think it looks on me. Okay, I mean on my website.

Would you please take a look and let me know if:

It’s easy to understand?
Sounds enticing?
Have any suggestions?
Makes my butt look fat?  I’m just checking to see how far down you read.

Any questions or comments?
Please make a comment below, give me a ringy dingy at 914 441 0756,
or send an email.
Your feedback is very important to me.

virtual wardrobe styling

 

 

The Sleeve Length You Shouldn’t Wear

Almost all women hate showing their arms…even when
it’s 100 degrees outside.

I can relate.

But don’t rush to wear any top just because it has sleeves.

Beware the half-sleeve.

This is one sleeve style that can be quite unflattering.  For starters, it has a major FRUMP producing look.

The Sleeve Length You Shouldn't Wear

The Sleeve Length You Shouldn’t Wear

These sleeves are too long or too short, depending upon how you look at it and unless your upper arms are very wide, this sleeve length will:

  1. Make your upper arms appear bigger than they actually are.
  2. Make your chest area look larger, from side to side which is soooooo not the goal of most women.
  3. Make you look older than you are.
  4. Make you look wider than you are.
  5. Make an outfit look a bit too casual and/or messy looking.

When you know how little details make big improvements, getting dressed is so much less stressful.

My online course Dress Without Stress is available. Click here to learn more.

Subscribe to Scarlett Says – my free twice-monthly newsletter for women who want to stop stressing about dressing, and I’ll send you my free End Your Closet Shame 5 Day Video Guide.

Tips To Know Which Boot Style To Wear

Tips To Know Which Boot Style To Wear

Tips To Know Which Boot Style To Wear

Boots can be warm.
Boots can be cool.
Boots are comfortable.
Boots are stylish.
Boots can elevate an outfit.

But, the wrong style boot will ruin your styling efforts.

 

Here are some boots do’s and don’ts.

If you are less than 5’2 or have wide calves, do not wear mid-calf boots because…

When a boot hits at the widest part of your lower leg it will visually make it look wider and your legs look shorter.

 

I couldn’t find a photo showing how bad this can often look, as retailer’s websites won’t display wide calves with mid-calf boots, but this look is often seen with Ugg mid-calf boots.

Tips To Know Which Boot Style To Wear

Most women want to look leaner and taller, so mid-calf boots are not our friend.

If you have wide calves…

Use search filters when online shopping for wide calf boots and look for boots with stretch fabrics versus all leather.

and…

If you can’t find knee-hi boots to fit your calves, then I strongly suggest trying wearing ankle boots. I live in these style booties and they tend to visually lengthen and thin out legs.

This pair by Blondo, are waterproof and very similar to a few that I own.

Tips To Know Which Boot Style To Wear

If you’re petite in height and don’t have wide calves, then go for knee hi boots as another option.

Tips To Know Which Boot Style To Wear

Above all…Remember, these boots are made for walking.

 

Are You Tidying Up With Marie Kondo?

Tidying Up with Marie Kondo

Ready to tidy and toss?

So here’s what I’m talking about. There is a new  Netflix series, “Tidying Up with Marie Kondo,” and it’s gaining lots, and I mean lots of attention and it all started with the great success of Kondo’s book, The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up.

It’s so freeing and yes, fun to have an organized home.

Especially your clothing closets and drawers.

To be clear, I’m a wardrobe stylist and not an organizer, but when you’re closet is only filled with clothes that fit well and look great on you, you’ll find it easy to get rid of the pieces that “don’t bring you joy” and the outcome is always a better looking and more organized closet.

I especially like her tip on how to fold clothes and scarves in drawers. You can see her method in the post I wrote here, right after I had read her book.

 

 In order to get out the clothes that are unflattering, you need to know what to look for and to avoid, and that’s why last year I created a free closet clean out challenge called End Your Closet Shame and an on-line Course Dress Without Stress.  NOTE: The course is sold out now and will re-open in late spring.

Take a look at her book and Netflix show to get
you inspired to toss and tidy up.

How about it? Ready to tidy and toss?

Happy New Year

No Blahs… Only Bravos Allowed For 2018

Let’s not remember our failures over our successes.

 

Today I’m not going to give you any styling or shopping advice. Instead, please allow me to share my personal BRAVOS, and not tell you ANY of my 2018 BLAHS.

 

  1. I applied for the first time and was accepted to speak at the  NAPO, National Association of Productivity Professionals, conference in Chicago this year. It’s a big deal to be chosen and was one of my career goals.
  2. Forgot my iPad Pro in the security bin at the Milan Italy airport, and didn’t realize it until I was home the next day. My bravo is that even after 1 week of emailing, calling, and checking their online lost & found, I did not stop trying to get it back. After 1 1/2 weeks it showed up on their website, and it’s back in my hands. Never give up!
  3. Lost 5 lbs, and that’s just enough for me to have one less roll in my baker’s dozen.
  4. Had a very successful re-launch of my online course.
  5. Our daughter got engaged to a GREAT guy! Whew.
  6. Our son was a candidate for and received, via tough surgeries, a sci-fi RNS device to attempt to reduce his uncontrolled seizures. I’m only doing the bravo part of this story here…
  7. I had the privilege of working with 10 new clients in person and 15 more virtually. Their joy lifts me up.
  8. Met wonderful women via networking, many of whom are in the wonderful and intimate group  Entrepreneurial Woman’s Club.
  9. I have YOU as one of my readers and I thank you for that.

We ALL could use a bit of self-boosting, as we, myself included, tend to remember our failures over our successes.

So what are some of your 2018 BRAVOS? Please share in the comments space below, and let’s celebrate together.