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This Made Me Really Mad and Sad

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Does a Woman Have to Dress Down to Move Up In Her Career?

Recently, one of my younger clients who work in a male-dominated field, emailed me with the following question:

“I wonder if you would post about a specific topic for executive women. I have worn the dresses you picked out for me with much success, but almost too much success. I look so good it’s detracting from my message and attracting some unwanted attention from men.”

To say that I was taken aback by her request would be an understatement, as I truly thought those threatening days were long gone.

I experienced her quandary back in the 80s when I was a hard-working and ambitious woman, surrounded by men with huge egos who had no fear of sexual harassment charges or even knew they existed. Actually, I had bosses and encounters with men who thought nothing of inappropriate behavior. In a way, it was their badge of honor and my baggage to carry. So, how could this still be going on?

My client, and apparently other women in male-dominated industries, as per an article in Forbes, on the subject for sexism, clearly shows that the good ‘ole boys club shenanigans that I’ve had to face, still go on, especially in Silicon Valley.

So here I am, three decades later, showing women which clothes will flatter them the most, so that their careers can soar, only to find out that unwanted and uninvited attention from men is clipping their wings.

The majority of women I work with are not in male-dominated fields and do not have to forfeit looking and feeling attractive, in order to show power and receive respect. Yet, I can’t stop being disturbed about how women in tech industries have to wrestle with deciding if they have to dress down so as to move up in their careers.

I asked my client if she is getting more deals and interest in her services, since working with me and wearing the clothes I selected for her professional wardrobe. Here is her response:

“Yes, a lot of doors opened and the deal flows are better, however, I think I’m pitching a deal and the men think they are getting a date.”

Could it be that when some men behave like predators, it is their attempt to keep powerful, smart and talented women from passing them on the way up the ladder of a successful career? Or are they simply afraid of what their prey could accomplish if they are allowed to survive?

It is wonderful that she, and many of my other client’s, careers and income are expanding, yet tainted with the fact that even in this day and age, women in certain industries still have to decide if they should dress like a man by wearing a suit, or dress so that they feel beautiful, while risking being made to feel that they are sending the wrong signals.

How disappointing and sad, that many women still have to say ”eyes up here.”

A woman can and should be able to wear clothes that are flattering and give her the ability to command the room, instead of the wrong attention. Her career will always grow when her appearance reflects her confidence, skills, and creativity.

Clearly, our work in leveling the playing field in the workplace is still not done, but in no way does that mean women should allow the “uber” testosterone of some small-minded men, to determine how they dress and feel about themselves.

I would love to hear about your past or current experiences regarding men and how it did or did not affect your choices on what to wear to work. Please comment in the box below.

Note: This is an article appearing in Huffington Post.

professional wardrobe tips for women“As a client of Scarlett’s, I’ve been lucky enough to take advantage of her online shopping service. Once I let her know what I was looking for, she took off, quickly sending me a long list of links to specific clothing that she knew I’d like, along with comments on sizing and her opinion. I wound up with all the pieces I needed, plus a few I didn’t even think about, but loved when I got them. Scarlett makes it easy, stress-free and super-convenient. I’m a life-long client.” Lisa Corrado
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Two Products You Should Know About

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Here are two products that make me feel like Arnold Horshack on Welcome Back Kotter, saying, “ooo, ooo, ooo”.

 

As many of you know, part of being an entrepreneur is attending lots and lots of networking events. They are crucial if you want both your personal and business life to grow and flourish.

Not only have I made dear friends, connected with many, many wonderful future clients, but I also discover some of the coolest products that women have created for women.

Last week I attended a wonderful dinner in NYC hosted by Running With Heels and Ellevate, formerly known as 85 Broads, and met two inspiring women entrepreneurs.

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The first, Cassandra, created a genius product that is lightweight and easily portable. It is PYSIS, The Posh Galosh – overboots Protect Your Shoes… and arrive In Style, whatever the weather.

When I think of all the times I had to rethink my outfit just so I could avoid wearing nice shoes in torrential rain, or slushy snow. Sometimes I literally got wet feet before arriving at events,  and I really wish I had already owned a pair of PYSIS. And, ‘to boot’, they can be folded to fit inside a bag. Great for traveling and will also fit into my carry-on suitcase.

Check out this video to see them in action.

The second amazing woman I met, Tanea, founded She’s Got Papers, a line of unique and fun stationary.  I love that Tanea’s tagline is’ “say it the write way.” A hand written note is still the best way to show you care, and hers are clever and one of a kind.

See Tanea’s inspiring story on becoming an entrepreneur here.

I bought two sets of cards that are perfect for me to send to my clients. Peruse the cards and see if you can guess which ones I ordered.

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About Scarlett

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Scarlett De Bease, a professionally trained Image Consultant and Wardrobe Stylist, is the founder of “The Always Know What To Wear Program™“. As an Image Consultant, Entertaining Speaker & Savvy Personal Shopper, she shows women how to project confidence & success by always knowing what to wear. As a bonus, Scarlett’s tips will help you Look Younger, Thinner and Taller while projecting Confidence & Success as you now will be wearing the clothes that fit and flatter you the most. Since 2006, she has successfully changed the lives of many women, by showing them the correct clothes, colors, styles and accessories that will flatter them the most. If you keep buying clothes and still have nothing to wear, Scarlett will make it possible for you to always know what to wear. Scarlett specializes in make-overs, that are fun and informative. She brings The What Not To Wear experience directly to your home or office, but without the tears, fears and trash can. Scarlett shows women how to Stop Stressing About Dressing. Scarlett’s tips have nothing to do with size, age, income level, career, etc – It’s not about where you shop, it’s about what you buy.

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